Is this you?
You value conscious compassionate relationships yet find yourself getting caught in your own reactivity and that of others. You would like to unhook yourself from reactivity and stand up for what you value and need with confidence.
You know that reactivity interferes with your ability to access the skills you have learned and practiced in the past. You recognize that turning towards your experience of reactivity requires vulnerability and the ability to be present with uncomfortable feelings. You trust that the group structure we offer and your own resources will allow you to do some of this difficult work in our workshop.
What is it all about?
In this four week online series you will practice recognizing reactivity before it takes over, intervening with reactivity to find groundedness, identifying the needs underneath reactivity, and finding specific doable actions or requests in the moment.
Working with reactivity means engaging in at least two primary relationship competencies, # 5 Recognizing Reactivity and #6 Managing Reactivity. For each of these competencies there are six main skills to learn and practice. For our series, we will focus on three skills for each competency:
Recognize Reactivity
Identify the signs of reactivity the moment it arises.
Acknowledge that the causes for reactivity are internal and name what that looks like for you: Where you put your attention, thoughts, limiting beliefs, decisions, posture, behavior, etc.
Identify your own “tender needs”* and potential healing experiences related to these needs.
Manage Reactivity
Practice with regulation strategies an anchor
Shift to empathy or self-empathy the moment reactivity is identified
Differentiate between constructive feedback and blame or criticism
What to expect:
You will interact with other students who are grounded in the values of mindfulness and compassion and bring a strong intention for growth and transformation. You will engage in conceptual learning, group discussion, experiential learning, and skills practice. Practice exercises will be done individually, in pairs, and in small groups. You will apply examples that you choose from your own life in each exercise.
Wise Heart has many dedicated students. Any given class series will be a mix of students who are new to Wise Heart and students who know the trainers and each other from previous courses.
Understanding the online format
Students will be signing in from their own location in real time, at the same time. We will be able to see and hear each other in little boxes on the screen. For visibility, it's important to have a light in front of you, not behind you. The technology allows for breaking up into pairs or small groups, which I can visit and check in with just as I would do in an in-person course.
It's okay to miss one class in the series. You will receive a recording of the class and be asked to view it and do the corresponding exercises before the next class. Students won't be shown on the recording, but can be heard.
You can also opt to take the series only through the recording and to participate in discussion via the online format.
With the online format you can participate in a weekly discussion with all students. I recommend that you find someone to do the course exercises with if you are receiving the recording.
You will receive a detailed workbook as a part of the class, which you will need to have with you for each class. This workbook is packed with information and contains instructions for each experiential exercise.
Details:
Live attendance means:
Attending at least three of the four classes.
Arriving on time to each class (10:00am PDT).
Attending and participating for the duration of the class. There will be a 10-minute break in the middle It is disruptive for group learning and process to come in and out of a single class session; please plan to attend by recording if you cannot stay for the full two hours of the class. Let me know if you will arrive a few minutes late to a given class.
Consistent access to internet speeds and connectivity that support video conferencing (600kbps/1.2Mbps (up/down) for HQ video; 1.5Mbps/1.5Mbps (up/down) for gallery view).
Facility with using the Zoom video conferencing system. Please ask to consult with one of the staff members at Wise Heart if you are unsure about this aspect of your attendance.
Logging in each week using the initial instructions and meeting ID # you received before the start of the course.
Optional participation in the weekly online discussion with all students enrolled in the course.
Self-paced attendance means:
As self-paced participants, you will receive an extensive workbook as well as access to the video recordings of each session within 24 hours of the end of the session (12:00pm PDT).
You can ask to be assigned a study buddy to work with if you like.
Questions regarding the material, recordings, and practice each week will be answered by LaShelle via email correspondence. Please place the word QUESTION in all caps in the subject line so that we can track them and respond in a timely manner.
Optional participation in a weekly online discussion with all students enrolled in the course.
For more technical information about zoom, you can go here.
Trainer: LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
When:
10am to 12pm over Zoom on April 18th
10am to 12pm over Zoom on April 25th
10am to 12pm over Zoom on May 2nd
10am to 12pm over Zoom on May 9th
Where: Zoom Online Video Conferencing
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