"Working with my partner to understand how to communicate when they are experiencing reactivity improved our ability to connect even in when we are in a reactive state." - Portland, Oregon Couple
"I truly loved learning about what is and isn't empathy—and I can't wait to start making empathy my default response in addition to what I naturally do to help others." - Portland, Oregon Couple
"Perspective shift of not just viewing boundaries from the "no" but also illuminating the yes!" - Couple in Portland, Oregon
"We were able to appreciate each other in ways that we were not aware we were supporting the other." - Portland, Oregon Couple
“Connection and new insight with one another brought more intimacy and love.” - Supported Couple
“My wife and I have been together for 12 years now, and for the last eight years we've been consciously trying to improve our communication. We've taken workshops, gone to therapists, and read books. We learned a lot, and improved a lot, and yet... it all seemed to stay at the level of 'technique.'
After working with you, and the way that you don't just teach, but you embody how to communicate, you transmit it, if you'll permit me the term, all of those techniques just fell into place. I feel like I finally digested 8 years worth of meals.
No matter how challenging the situation, my wife and I can now communicate in a way that deepens our intimacy and trust, instead of tearing it apart. It's just amazing to have a fun life now, without the struggle and arguments that we used to have so often. Ahhh....”
- Mark Silver, Portland OR
“I can categorically say that our marriage is stronger after having taken your classes.”
- Student, Portland OR
“Thank you for helping me save my relationships.”
- Student, Portland, OR
“I wasn't sure I wanted to invest more money into communication training with my wife. The thought crossed my mind that perhaps a vacation to the ocean would be more beneficial than a 6 week couples training. Boy, I couldn't have been more wrong. The tools LaShelle shared with my wife and me created more connection and a deeper level of understanding. LaShelle is a gifted trainer and was able to easily move us through conversations that would normally have exploded like dynamite. If you're tired of running into the same walls with your partner and ready to have a breakthrough with parenting, money, or sex, I highly recommend working with LaShelle.”
- Jason Stein, Portland OR
“I am forever grateful to you for inspiring my husband who now really GETS NVC and is interested in pursuing it.”
- Deb Thornton, Portland, OR
“My wife and I have been married for almost nine years and together for fifteen. Overall, our relationship is healthy and loving. We really care for each other. Still, there are times when we see things differently and those times were fairly tough to work through. NVC, as guided by LaShelle, has given us a whole new language to use with each other without the triggers that used to lock us into our individual positions. We now understand and have compassion for our own and each others’ jackal voices and thoughts. I personally have a whole new vocabulary of feelings I am becoming more and more capable of getting in touch with and expressing.
Working with LaShelle, guiding us and watching her guide others through tough issues has been incredibly helpful. She is so fluent and insightful – a wonderful model to learn from and emulate. Her warm and compassionate way of leading our group always creates the safety it takes to risk being vulnerable. As a result of LaShelle’s class our relationship has reached a new depth and intimacy and isn’t that what it’s all about?”
- Dan & Claudia Duggan, Beaverton, OR
“The experiential exercises were incredibly informative and useful. I think that my tool box has swelled exponentially.”
- Workshop Participant
“I really appreciated the combination of LaShelle’s NVC expertise with Jeremy’s body centered nourishing resources, It was a very effective combination for my body, heart, and mind.”
- Workshop Participant
“Yes, we crashed when we got home from the workshop! However, it was a watershed moment for me actually and has now led to what feels like a very different relationship. The workshop's emphasis on triggers and how to proceed once the trigger begins has been a game changer. Both of us are doing well and it seems we are both looking and experiencing ourselves in a different way!! Wow.
I'm feeling excited because of growth and awareness needs!”
- Supported Couple from Bend, Oregon
“LaShelle, I appreciate how connected you are to your source, how gentle you are with the people you work with and how succinct your observations and suggestions are. You are truly walking YOUR path. It is inspiring to witness and amazing to be the recipient of your gifts and talents.”
“I feel a deep appreciation for the presence, integrity, & skill that LaShelle offers and am so grateful to have experienced this work.”
- Workshop Participant, Portland OR
“LaShelle, your teaching of the nvc wisdom is easily digested and easily grasped - - - and essential for transforming our lives... i love your work and thank u.”
- Michelle from Australia
I just want to tell you that I love, love, love these gems! Your voice, your conversational and practical style is always spot on. Always insightful and educational. You truly serve the world in an important way! I’ve forwarded these so many times....but most often it seems perfectly timed for something in my life.
“I took the Bringing Light to Shame class that started in September of 2015. My experience of shame has fundamentally changed as a result. It isn’t that I no longer experience shame, I do. It just doesn’t have the same hold on me. It comes and goes much more quickly, and more often I experience a sense of regret for my choices, actions or words. More often I’ll now feel badly about what I’ve done rather than who I am. The experience of regret is more manageable and productive for me being that it often leads to a strategy to change course. The feeling of shame has felt paralyzing to me in the past. When I feel ashamed now, I know that I’ve behaved in a way that isn’t congruent with my values, and I can translate that into feelings and needs, and requests of myself and others. This was the first class I took with LaShelle and I have never looked back. I continue to sign up for one class or group after another. I highly recommend LaShelle’s classes as an opportunity for growth, learning, and healing. I am deeply appreciative of her guidance and mentoring as I continue to deepen my practice of NVC.”
- Dedicated Student
“Hi LaShelle— I wanted you to know how much I appreciate your work-- I so appreciate, and am moved by your skill in placing your compassionate, intelligent focus on our human heart connection with each other. Your insight has really helped me be better able to contain other people in my heart, and to be more compassionate and understanding of their needs, and my own. -- anyway, I just wanted you to know that I appreciate your good and important work— thank you!”
- From your biggest fan, Carl
“I highly recommend LaShelle's classes. She is very organized - with helpful and comprehensive handouts.
You can sign up for her weekly blog - "Connection Gem of the Week" and get a taste of her style.
I have found the mentoring series to be invaluable. It was good to learn and practice NVC in a class with LaShelle. But, the mentoring sessions take the practice deeper and farther. In a small group of 6 or 7 we each brought a practice edge - a communication conundrum to the class. LaShelle then gave specific do-able ideas about how to work with each situation in a more skillful way. I was able to learn lots and lots of new ways of looking at communication by hearing about my classmates' queries. We practiced by role playing with each other.”
- Sandra Burch
“Just listening to LaShelle speak from an NVC consciousness, I can feel my brain cells being rearranged. It’s so important for me to live the values of compassion and honesty. LaShelle has helped me get to a whole new level of understanding about how I can be honest and come from compassion.”
- Holly Glaser
“Thank you for the deep insight, kindness, and encouragement you offer so freely. This is hard work, but you provide a gentle holding space that makes it possible. I think you are providing an invaluable service to our community and to the world!”
“I am continually impressed by LaShelle’s ability to go to the heart of an issue and speak with clarity and insight.”
- Dee Packard, Portland, OR
“I've been meaning to tell you how much I appreciate that you take the time to write these little "gems" every week or so. I always read them and I learn something from the experience. It meets my need for being a better communicator. Your insights feel right on the mark, and as I'll bet you hear often, feel as if you've written them just for me. I'm grateful to you for taking the time to put them together and appreciate your gift of expression.”
- David Romanetti, Portland, OR
“LaShelle... you continue to pack such a potent and positive punch in the fewest words necessary to make profound and memorable points.
Thank you for your ongoing service to so many.”
“LaShelle, you are an amazing example of a compassionate & authentic presence and communicator.”