9 Foundations of
Mindful Compassionate Dialogue



Attunement means turning attention toward the experience and behavior of another for the purpose of offering care. Attunement includes consistent responsivity. Attunement is distinct from vigilance, which involves carefully observing others for the purpose of tracking threat.


Warmth could be described as a diffuse felt-sense of love. It is usually accompanied by a softening of muscles in the face and around the heart, a feeling of openness, an attitude of caring, physical warmth, and an embracing or allowing of experience.  It is distinguished by a lack of judgment. Compassion and loving-kindness are warmth practices.


Security is a relational confidence in which you are experiencing a felt-sense of trust that you can be received and held with care by others; and that all aspects of your experience are acceptable and can be met with care and comfort.



Awareness is the ability to identify aspects of experience as they arise such as: body sensations, body processes, posture, movement, impulses, energy, emotions, needs, images, thoughts, and behaviors.


Health refers to care for the body. This means the body is getting the rest, exercise, medical attention, and nutrition it needs to function smoothly while supporting you throughout daily activities.


Regulation is the process of tracking and managing physiological homeostasis and reactivity. This means noticing disequilibrium and reactivity as they show up in the body and then engaging in interventions that return the body to physiological homeostasis; that is, a consistent rhythm and balance that support other functions.



Equanimity is an even state of mind that is rooted in an understanding of the impermanence of all phenomena. With equanimity you can observe experiences such as craving, aversion, impulses, or intense feelings without behaving from them. Equanimity is a profound allowing of experience.  It includes an ability to notice experience and a sense of self with curiosity and lightness.


Clarity refers to a state of mind rooted in ethical living.  Clarity is the ability to examine what is perceived with skill and wisdom. With clarity, you can take in new information and synthesize old information.


Concentration is the ability to direct your attention where you would like and hold it there as long as you would like. Concentration is a power of mind developed through specific meditation practices such as holding your attention on a single subtle object such as the breath for specific lengths of time.