Needs-based Negotiation: Mindful Compassionate Dialogue Relationship Competency 7 (Video Conferencing or Self-Paced)

Thursday, July 29, 2021
11:30 AM 1:00 PM

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This workshop will focus on the relationship competency of Needs-based Negotiation

Is this you?

Do you want confidence that you can engage in successful negotiation with others while staying connected to your own needs and respecting another's needs?

You have been practicing Mindful Compassionate Dialogue or Nonviolent Communication long enough to know that it’s not easy to put into practice. You value the consciousness, principles, and skills and would like to trust that you can reliably communicate in accordance with them. You are especially interested in how to engage in collaborative dialogue that doesn’t get derailed by reactivity and is connecting and creative.

You want to be able to manage reactivity in yourself and meet it in others while you stay in dialogue. You are ready to learn how to stay grounded and connected in dialogue. You are ready to learn the nuanced awareness and subtle skills of Needs-based negotiation.

You recognize that learning Needs-based negotiation requires vulnerability and the ability to be present with uncomfortable feelings. You trust that the group structure we offer and your own resources will allow you to meet these challenges in our class series.

What's It All About?

Learning needs-based negotiation will give you a sense of ease and creativity as you face the most difficult situations in life. You will be able to enter into challenging dialogues with a confidence that all needs can be honored.

There are three key distinctions that make needs-based negotiation different from other forms of negotiation. First, in needs-based negotiation, the quality of connection is the top priority. We trust that when there is a particular quality of connection, collaboration and creativity become accessible.

Second, when the aliveness of needs/values in the present moment inform the process, we find truly effective strategies, solutions, and agreements.

Lastly, needs-based negotiation is inclusive. It rests on a confidence that each person can be equally honored and respected.

In this workshop, you will learn about these three concrete skills:

Articulate the difference between needs based negotiation and other common forms of negotiation
Identify and communicate three ways to set up a dialogue for success
Learn the basic steps of Needs-based negotiation

Read more about this relationship competency here.

About Mindful Compassionate Dialogue

Mindful Compassionate Dialogue (MCD) naturally supports you in creating the relationships you want by integrating the wisdom and skills of three powerful modalities: Hakomi, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and mindfulness.

Each modality contributes something unique to the process. Hakomi offers clarity about reactivity and healing. NVC provides a method for achieving self-responsibility, skillful communication, and agency. And mindfulness adds the stable attention and clear focus needed to continuously refine your understanding and skills.

MCD is a system meant to provide access to agency, compassion, mindfulness, and wisdom. Personal transformation is achieved through practice with the 12 Relationship Competencies and Nine Foundations, which arise from a central, life-serving intention.

What to expect?

In this 90 minute workshop, you will engage in conceptual learning, group discussion, experiential learning, and skills practice. Practice exercises will be done individually, in pairs, and in small groups. You can apply examples from your own life that you choose in the exercises.

Understanding the online format

Students will be signing in to the workshop simultaneously in real time from their own locations, using Zoom. We will be able to see and hear each other. For visibility, it’s important to have a light in front of you, not behind you. The technology allows for breaking up into pairs or small groups, which the trainers can check in with just as would happen in an in-person course.

You will be able to review a recording of the workshop for a full week after it ends. Students won't be shown on the recording, but can be heard. You can participate in discussions via chat if you don’t want your voice recorded. This course may be sold later as a pre-recorded course.

You can also opt to take the series only through the recording.

Having someone in your life available to do the exercises with you is recommended for this option.

You will receive a detailed handout as a part of the workshop that you can download and keep for future reference.

Details:

Live attendance means:

Arriving on time to the workshop.
Attending and participating for the duration of the class. It is disruptive to come in and out of the workshop; please plan to attend by recording if you cannot stay for the full 90 minutes of the workshop.

Access to the video recording for a full week following the workshop.
Receiving a detailed handout that you can download and keep for later reference.
Ensuring you have consistent access to internet speeds and connectivity that support video conferencing (600kbps/1.2Mbps (up/down) for HQ video; 1.5Mbps/1.5Mbps (up/down) for gallery view).