You want to be generous and kind, yet find that you are giving yourself away. Or perhaps you want to be closer to others and find yourself feeling distant and disconnected regardless of your hope to be close. Or perhaps you find yourself hanging out for toxic interactions wishing you could rely on yourself to set a boundary.
Bringing Light to Shame - Eight Week Series Beginning Jan. 11, 2019 (Video Conferencing or Self-Paced)
You have longing to feel more whole and alive in your life as well as more skillful in your relationships. You know that parts of who you are have been sent into exile and you are ready to reclaim those parts. You know that this means embracing vulnerability and being with discomfort. You have enough resource and support in your life to do this difficult work of moving into relationship with shame and cultivating a sense of self that has you thriving in your life and in your relationships. You can see how a lack of access to a solid sense of your own worth blocks your ability to engage in relationships the way you would like to and inhibits compassion and skillful relating.
You might not name shame as a part of the problem. Shame often goes undetected. Struggles with shame usually have other labels like: not standing up for yourself when you need to, withdrawing from something you really want, giving up on your dreams, overworking, feeling small in certain situations, having poor boundaries, wishing your body was different, hearing yourself say you’re not good enough, shutting down in a vulnerable moment, etc.
Advanced Series: Needs Negotiation and Secure Differentiation - Eight-Week Series Beginning March 7, 2019 (Portland, OR)
You have taken two or more classes with me. You value the skills you have learned and consistently attempt to integrate them into daily life. You are ready for the next level of learning and integration.
You are ready to work at a subtle level of personal healing and transformation in collaboration with other individuals who are bringing shared values and intentions. You know this means entering a safe space of shared vulnerability.
You are ready to make this series a priority, by arriving on time and not missing more than two classes.
You know shame sometimes lurks around in the dark corners of your consciousness and you are ready to shine a light there. You recognize that shame can also happen in the smallest of moments. It might be a moment that you don't stand up for yourself or make your needs less important. You are ready to take a look at what triggers shame and connect to the vulnerable feelings and needs underneath. In this series you will learn to bring shame fully into the light of consciousness and build a compassionate and skillful relationship to it.