Couples Class Series - Learning the Basics: Mindful Compassionate Dialogue - Six-Week Series Beginning Jan. 8, 2019 (Portland, OR)
Jan
8
7:00 PM19:00

Couples Class Series - Learning the Basics: Mindful Compassionate Dialogue - Six-Week Series Beginning Jan. 8, 2019 (Portland, OR)

  • 4312 Southeast Stark Street Portland, OR, 97215 United States (map)
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You are in a committed relationship and love your partner* and you want to build a foundation for a lasting relationship.  Perhaps things are going well and you want that to continue.  Or, perhaps you feel frustrated about getting caught in the same arguments again and again and can find yourself in blame and criticism.  Either way, you are ready and willing to engage in experiential exercises with your partner to learn new skills that will support both a secure emotional bond and the ability to honor authenticity and autonomy.

When: Tuesdays 7pm - 9pm for 6 weeks beginning January 8, 2019

Where: Friends Meeting House
4312 SE Stark, Portland OR 97215 

Cost: $315.00 per couple (couples cay opt to pay a $99 deposit to register, and pay the remaining balance on or before the first day of the workshop)

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Life Serving Boundaries - Four-Week Series Beginning Jan. 10, 2019 (Portland, OR)
Jan
10
7:00 PM19:00

Life Serving Boundaries - Four-Week Series Beginning Jan. 10, 2019 (Portland, OR)

  • 4312 Southeast Stark Street Portland, OR, 97215 United States (map)
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You want to be generous and kind, yet find that you are giving yourself away.  Or perhaps you want to be closer to others and find yourself feeling distant and disconnected regardless of your hope to be close.  Or perhaps you find yourself hanging out for toxic interactions wishing you could rely on yourself to set a boundary.

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Bringing Light to Shame - Eight Week Series Beginning Jan. 11, 2019 (Video Conferencing or Self-Paced)
Jan
11
2:30 PM14:30

Bringing Light to Shame - Eight Week Series Beginning Jan. 11, 2019 (Video Conferencing or Self-Paced)

You have longing to feel more whole and alive in your life as well as more skillful in your relationships. You know that parts of who you are have been sent into exile and you are ready to reclaim those parts. You know that this means embracing vulnerability and being with discomfort. You have enough resource and support in your life to do this difficult work of moving into relationship with shame and cultivating a sense of self that has you thriving in your life and in your relationships. You can see how a lack of access to a solid sense of your own worth blocks your ability to engage in relationships the way you would like to and inhibits compassion and skillful relating.  

You might not name shame as a part of the problem. Shame often goes undetected.  Struggles with shame usually have other labels like: not standing up for yourself when you need to, withdrawing from something you really want, giving up on your dreams, overworking, feeling small in certain situations, having poor boundaries, wishing your body was different, hearing yourself say you’re not good enough, shutting down in a vulnerable moment, etc.

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Two-Hour Introductory Workshop for Couples on Jan. 12, 2019 (Portland, OR)
Jan
12
10:00 AM10:00

Two-Hour Introductory Workshop for Couples on Jan. 12, 2019 (Portland, OR)

  • 4312 Southeast Stark Street Portland, OR, 97215 United States (map)
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It can be maddening to find yourself going around and around with your partner over the same issues. You need a way to break out of the dynamic that leaves you feeling disconnected.

You and your partner are suddenly disconnected and arguing about missing a turn while driving. The content is trivial, but there is something important underneath, if only you could name it.

Mindful Compassionate Dialogue helps you name the real issues and address them effectively. The real issues are universal: love, respect, understanding, being heard & seen, caring, consideration, trust, intimacy, to name a few. Unfortunately these are communicated indirectly, for example, “You never listen to me!” could be more directly communicated like this, “Hearing you give me advice, I feel frustrated because I want to be heard. Would you be willing to tell me what you are hearing me rather than giving advice?”

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Advanced Series: Needs Negotiation and Secure Differentiation - Eight-Week Series Beginning March 7, 2019 (Portland, OR)
Mar
7
6:30 PM18:30

Advanced Series: Needs Negotiation and Secure Differentiation - Eight-Week Series Beginning March 7, 2019 (Portland, OR)

  • 4312 Southeast Stark Street Portland, OR, 97215 United States (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

You have taken two or more classes with me.  You value the skills you have learned and consistently attempt to integrate them into daily life.  You are ready for the next level of learning and integration.

You are ready to work at a subtle level of personal healing and transformation in collaboration with other individuals who are bringing shared values and intentions.  You know this means entering a safe space of shared vulnerability.  

You are ready to make this series a priority, by arriving on time and not missing more than two classes.

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Bringing Light to Shame - One-Day Workshop on Dec. 15, 2019 (Portland, OR)
Dec
15
9:30 AM09:30

Bringing Light to Shame - One-Day Workshop on Dec. 15, 2019 (Portland, OR)

You know shame sometimes lurks around in the dark corners of your consciousness and you are ready to shine a light there.  You recognize that shame can also happen in the smallest of moments.  It might be a moment that you don't stand up for yourself or make your needs less important. You are ready to take a look at what triggers shame and connect to the vulnerable feelings and needs underneath.  In this series you will learn to bring shame fully into the light of consciousness and build a compassionate and skillful relationship to it.

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