My Connection Gem of the Week takes a specific issue in NVC and walks you through an example of how it is applied in real-life situations.
| May 24, 2013 |
Hearing without Defending |
6 Comments |
| May 21, 2013 |
Making Threats or Setting Boundaries |
Add a Comment |
| May 15, 2013 |
Building Trust |
6 Comments |
| May 09, 2013 |
Intimate Relationship as a High Cost Strategy |
4 Comments |
| May 07, 2013 |
You Don’t Want to Hurt Their Feelings (Part 2) |
Add a Comment |
| May 03, 2013 |
Equal Doesn't Mean Same |
Add a Comment |
| Apr 29, 2013 |
You Don’t Want to Hurt Their Feelings |
Add a Comment |
| Apr 26, 2013 |
Requests - Giving the Gift of Your Needs |
8 Comments |
| Apr 22, 2013 |
Questions: A Cry for Empathy in Disguise |
Add a Comment |
| Apr 18, 2013 |
Emotional Dependence & Building a Yurt |
6 Comments |
| Apr 16, 2013 |
Empathy: Meeting the Jackals |
2 Comments |
| Apr 11, 2013 |
Reactivity and Agreements |
Add a Comment |
| Apr 08, 2013 |
Invalidating Other's Feelings vs. Listening with Empathy |
8 Comments |
| Apr 05, 2013 |
Integrity & Responsibility |
Add a Comment |
| Apr 02, 2013 |
Making a Safe Space for Requests |
Add a Comment |
| Mar 27, 2013 |
Building Trust with Attunement & Repair |
2 Comments |
| Mar 26, 2013 |
Making Clear Requests |
Add a Comment |
| Mar 20, 2013 |
Compromise & Reactivity |
4 Comments |
| Mar 19, 2013 |
Making Demands |
Add a Comment |
| Mar 12, 2013 |
Checking Out Assumptions |
Add a Comment |
| Mar 08, 2013 |
Self-Empathy Fundamentals |
Add a Comment |
| Mar 05, 2013 |
Asking the Impossible vs. Do-able Requests |
6 Comments |
| Feb 28, 2013 |
Meeting Your Partner’s Reactivity & Making Requests |
2 Comments |
| Feb 26, 2013 |
“Don’t Criticize me!” vs. Do-able requests |
12 Comments |
| Feb 22, 2013 |
Boldly Ask for the Relationship You Want |
4 Comments |
| Feb 19, 2013 |
Making a Plan to Change Your Partner |
4 Comments |
| Feb 14, 2013 |
Authority vs. Power Over / Power Under |
2 Comments |
| Feb 12, 2013 |
Gossip |
21 Comments |
| Feb 05, 2013 |
Interrupt to Connect |
Add a Comment |
| Jan 31, 2013 |
Losing Yourself to Anger and Blame |
Add a Comment |
| Jan 29, 2013 |
Loving Someone for Who They Are |
12 Comments |
| Jan 25, 2013 |
Before A Money Conversation |
Add a Comment |
| Jan 22, 2013 |
When a Child Lies |
Add a Comment |
| Jan 15, 2013 |
Why you want an apology and Why it's not enough |
2 Comments |
| Jan 08, 2013 |
Asking for Respect |
4 Comments |
| Jan 03, 2013 |
Power Over Your Partner |
2 Comments |
| Jan 01, 2013 |
Needs, what are they? |
2 Comments |
| Dec 27, 2012 |
Making Others Accountable |
Add a Comment |
| Dec 25, 2012 |
Meeting Criticism with Criticism |
12 Comments |
| Dec 22, 2012 |
Working Too Hard: Content vs. Connection (part 3 of 3) |
2 Comments |
| Dec 17, 2012 |
When others don’t change |
18 Comments |
| Dec 13, 2012 |
Working Too Hard: Content vs. Connection (part 2 of 3) |
Add a Comment |
| Dec 07, 2012 |
Working Too Hard: Managing Connection vs. Managing Content (part 1 of 3) |
Add a Comment |
| Dec 03, 2012 |
Good Intentions & Tragic Strategies |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 27, 2012 |
We Live to Serve |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 22, 2012 |
Runaway Truck Ramps for Reactivity |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 20, 2012 |
In a Mucky Conversation come back to Observation |
2 Comments |
| Nov 20, 2012 |
Doing NVC vs. Living NVC |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 15, 2012 |
Self-Empathy and Still Stuck |
2 Comments |
| Nov 14, 2012 |
Feeling "Excluded" |
8 Comments |
| Nov 09, 2012 |
Are you hiding behind empathy? |
8 Comments |
| Nov 05, 2012 |
Self-Empathy, Needs, & Requests |
Add a Comment |
| Oct 31, 2012 |
Choice |
6 Comments |
| Oct 26, 2012 |
NVC & Mental Illness |
6 Comments |
| Oct 23, 2012 |
Feelings that blame? |
12 Comments |
| Oct 17, 2012 |
Conspiring for Compassion |
Add a Comment |
| Oct 12, 2012 |
When You Can't Change Others |
2 Comments |
| Oct 09, 2012 |
Identify Your Needs On The Fly |
12 Comments |
| Oct 05, 2012 |
“Healthy Disconnect" |
Add a Comment |
| Oct 02, 2012 |
I can’t stop analyzing! |
Add a Comment |
| Sep 23, 2012 |
Personal Boundaries |
8 Comments |
| Sep 18, 2012 |
Saying No |
2 Comments |
| Sep 11, 2012 |
The Alarms – Anger, Guilt, & Shame |
9 Comments |
| Sep 06, 2012 |
Emotional Medicine |
2 Comments |
| Sep 04, 2012 |
When Your Past Shows Up in the Present |
Add a Comment |
| Aug 31, 2012 |
Glacial Change |
1 Comment |
| Aug 28, 2012 |
Lasting Happiness in Ice Cream |
Add a Comment |
| Aug 26, 2012 |
Apologies That Help |
4 Comments |
| Aug 21, 2012 |
Moving from Self-Criticism to Self- Empathy |
4 Comments |
| Aug 14, 2012 |
What’s Between Self-Criticism and Self- Empathy? (Part 1) |
4 Comments |
| Aug 09, 2012 |
Offering “too much” Empathy |
6 Comments |
| Aug 07, 2012 |
Basics for Self-Empathy |
4 Comments |
| Aug 01, 2012 |
The Cost of Self-Reliance |
2 Comments |
| Jul 31, 2012 |
Giving Yourself Compassion |
6 Comments |
| Jul 26, 2012 |
The Caretaker Partner |
4 Comments |
| Jul 24, 2012 |
When others become ”Its” |
Add a Comment |
| Jul 17, 2012 |
Sharing NVC |
Add a Comment |
| Jul 12, 2012 |
“Emotional Cheating” |
6 Comments |
| Jul 10, 2012 |
It’s not about NVC |
Add a Comment |
| Jul 05, 2012 |
Moving from Attachment to Abundance |
4 Comments |
| Jul 05, 2012 |
Family Healing |
8 Comments |
| Jun 30, 2012 |
Needy |
8 Comments |
| Jun 26, 2012 |
The Spirituality of NVC |
Add a Comment |
| Jun 21, 2012 |
When he doesn’t want to talk about it |
1 Comment |
| Jun 19, 2012 |
Obsessed with What's Wrong |
2 Comments |
| Jun 14, 2012 |
Comparing Jackals |
6 Comments |
| Jun 12, 2012 |
Taming Your Monkey Mind |
Add a Comment |
| Jun 07, 2012 |
Conditions for Reactivity & Centeredness |
1 Comment |
| Jun 05, 2012 |
Getting Started with Mindfulness & Jackals |
4 Comments |
| May 24, 2012 |
Setting Boundaries & Letting Go of Resolution |
4 Comments |
| May 09, 2012 |
When Your Partner Runs Out of Gas-Part 2 |
1 Comment |
| May 03, 2012 |
When Your Partner Runs Out of Gas |
3 Comments |
| Apr 26, 2012 |
Empathy vs. Investigation |
2 Comments |
| Apr 19, 2012 |
Creating Safety |
1 Comment |
| Apr 12, 2012 |
Apologies in NVC |
4 Comments |
| Mar 29, 2012 |
Wriggling Away from Anxiety |
Add a Comment |
| Mar 16, 2012 |
The Dating Game |
1 Comment |
| Feb 09, 2012 |
Asking for the Love You Want |
1 Comment |
| Jan 25, 2012 |
Accepting Your Partner Too Much |
10 Comments |
| Jan 13, 2012 |
Choosing Attachment |
2 Comments |
| Jan 06, 2012 |
Asking for and Giving Advice |
7 Comments |
| Dec 29, 2011 |
Lost Love & the Drive Towards Wholeness |
3 Comments |
| Dec 15, 2011 |
The Stress of Fear & Clinging |
Add a Comment |
| Dec 09, 2011 |
Depression and Abandoning Yourself |
5 Comments |
| Dec 04, 2011 |
Depression |
6 Comments |
| Nov 10, 2011 |
Your Partner's Self-Criticism |
2 Comments |
| Nov 03, 2011 |
Build a Bridge before Crossing |
3 Comments |
| Oct 27, 2011 |
Your Partner's Reactivity isn't About You |
3 Comments |
| Oct 20, 2011 |
There's No Such Thing as Independence |
Add a Comment |
| Oct 13, 2011 |
The Basics of Working with Reactivity |
5 Comments |
| Oct 05, 2011 |
Naming and Owning Reactivity |
2 Comments |
| Sep 29, 2011 |
Responding to Jackals in the Moment |
1 Comment |
| Sep 22, 2011 |
Your Tired Partner |
4 Comments |
| Sep 14, 2011 |
Responding to "Big Personalities" |
5 Comments |
| Sep 07, 2011 |
Working too hard at Listening? |
Add a Comment |
| Sep 01, 2011 |
Catching Your Partner in the Wrong |
Add a Comment |
| Aug 10, 2011 |
Pulling at Your Distant Partner |
11 Comments |
| Jul 27, 2011 |
Changing Relationship with Less Technology |
3 Comments |
| Jul 21, 2011 |
Curiosity for Poor Decisions |
2 Comments |
| Jul 14, 2011 |
Managing Emotions and Herding Cats |
5 Comments |
| Jul 07, 2011 |
How "Acceptance" Escalates Conflict |
Add a Comment |
| Jun 30, 2011 |
Family Member in Trouble |
7 Comments |
| Jun 23, 2011 |
Complaining II |
2 Comments |
| Jun 02, 2011 |
When Every Request is a Demand |
4 Comments |
| May 11, 2011 |
Loving without Giving Yourself Away |
3 Comments |
| May 05, 2011 |
Responding to "You always...!" |
1 Comment |
| Apr 21, 2011 |
Working Hard to be Seen |
2 Comments |
| Apr 13, 2011 |
Complaining |
1 Comment |
| Apr 06, 2011 |
NVC in the Workplace |
4 Comments |
| Mar 24, 2011 |
Pause & Resource |
1 Comment |
| Mar 15, 2011 |
Understanding & Responding to Blame |
11 Comments |
| Mar 11, 2011 |
Taking Responsibility for Your Healing |
4 Comments |
| Mar 03, 2011 |
Self-Expression & Identity |
Add a Comment |
| Feb 25, 2011 |
Before the Heated Argument |
1 Comment |
| Feb 16, 2011 |
Guidelines for Self-Reflection |
Add a Comment |
| Feb 10, 2011 |
Staying with "No" |
Add a Comment |
| Feb 02, 2011 |
Intention and Effect |
Add a Comment |
| Jan 27, 2011 |
The Attraction of Blame |
1 Comment |
| Jan 20, 2011 |
"I can't be myself in this relationship" |
17 Comments |
| Jan 11, 2011 |
Equanimity with Painful Feelings |
5 Comments |
| Jan 05, 2011 |
Basic Guidelines for Dialogue |
1 Comment |
| Dec 29, 2010 |
Asking for Presence |
Add a Comment |
| Dec 22, 2010 |
Taking Care of Yourself When Visiting Family |
3 Comments |
| Dec 08, 2010 |
Expectations of Your Partner |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 25, 2010 |
Setting Boundaries around Reactivity |
1 Comment |
| Nov 18, 2010 |
Setting Boundaries from the Inside |
8 Comments |
| Nov 05, 2010 |
Facing the "Difficult" Person |
15 Comments |
| Oct 28, 2010 |
Analyzing Your Partner's Needs |
Add a Comment |
| Oct 14, 2010 |
Heart-full Requests |
1 Comment |
| Oct 07, 2010 |
Making Your Relationship a Priority Without Losing Yourself |
Add a Comment |
| Sep 30, 2010 |
When You "Have To" (Belonging vs. Choice) |
Add a Comment |
| Sep 23, 2010 |
Slow Isn't Everything |
Add a Comment |
| Sep 15, 2010 |
Big Emotion |
Add a Comment |
| Sep 01, 2010 |
Control Disguised as a Request |
Add a Comment |
| Aug 25, 2010 |
Hearing Criticism from Others |
6 Comments |
| Aug 18, 2010 |
A Pitfall of Improving Your Relationship |
1 Comment |
| Aug 11, 2010 |
Trapped in Reactive Thinking |
1 Comment |
| Aug 04, 2010 |
Hiding from Your Partner |
Add a Comment |
| Jul 22, 2010 |
Emergency Measures for Escalating Arguments |
1 Comment |
| Jul 11, 2010 |
Helpful Time-outs |
1 Comment |
| Jul 07, 2010 |
Information in Celebration |
1 Comment |
| Jun 30, 2010 |
Why reviewing the rules doesn't help? |
3 Comments |
| Jun 24, 2010 |
A Stable Sense of Support in Economic Instability |
Add a Comment |
| Jun 17, 2010 |
Do you have more or less of a need? |
5 Comments |
| Jun 10, 2010 |
Shame Jackals Keep You Stuck |
3 Comments |
| Jun 03, 2010 |
The True Purpose of Appreciation |
1 Comment |
| May 27, 2010 |
Empathy Doesn't Have to Wear You Out |
3 Comments |
| May 20, 2010 |
You've Asked Over & Over Again |
1 Comment |
| May 05, 2010 |
Finding Aliveness - When You Are Being Talked At |
1 Comment |
| Apr 29, 2010 |
How Staying Positive Can Leave You Lonely |
4 Comments |
| Apr 22, 2010 |
Responding to Arguments Against NVC |
4 Comments |
| Apr 16, 2010 |
You don't have to agree to be supportive |
2 Comments |
| Apr 01, 2010 |
Apologies That Mean Something |
3 Comments |
| Mar 18, 2010 |
Alarm Feelings - Anger, Guilt, Shame, & Depression |
4 Comments |
| Mar 11, 2010 |
Screaming in Anger |
Add a Comment |
| Feb 04, 2010 |
When Empathy Doesn't Work |
1 Comment |
| Jan 28, 2010 |
No More Compromise |
1 Comment |
| Jan 21, 2010 |
Interrupting to Connect |
2 Comments |
| Jan 15, 2010 |
Empathy for Long Term Relationships |
1 Comment |
| Jan 01, 2010 |
When Message Sent Isn't Message Received |
Add a Comment |
| Dec 17, 2009 |
When Your Past Shows Up in the Present |
3 Comments |
| Dec 11, 2009 |
When You Just Want an Apology! |
5 Comments |
| Dec 02, 2009 |
A Vision of Success with a Stuck Argument |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 27, 2009 |
Becoming the Perfect You |
2 Comments |
| Nov 18, 2009 |
Working too hard at Listening? |
4 Comments |
| Oct 29, 2009 |
Monogamy in a World of Attractive Others |
4 Comments |
| Oct 25, 2009 |
Avoiding the Resentful Listener |
Add a Comment |
| Oct 15, 2009 |
Comparing Yourself to Others |
1 Comment |
| Oct 01, 2009 |
When Others don't receive your empathy |
Add a Comment |
| Sep 24, 2009 |
Getting Stuck Arguments Unstuck |
Add a Comment |
| Sep 17, 2009 |
Jackal Language & Reactivity |
2 Comments |
| Sep 02, 2009 |
Reigniting Intimacy |
Add a Comment |
| Aug 27, 2009 |
Angry & Resentful |
Add a Comment |
| Aug 20, 2009 |
Dissolving Reactivity |
Add a Comment |
| Aug 13, 2009 |
Defending Against Intimacy |
Add a Comment |
| Aug 06, 2009 |
Showing Your Partner that S/he is a Priority |
4 Comments |
| Jul 30, 2009 |
Supporting Your Partner's Autonomy |
3 Comments |
| Jul 23, 2009 |
Come Closer, Give Me Space |
Add a Comment |
| Jul 09, 2009 |
When You Want to Scream |
2 Comments |
| Jul 02, 2009 |
Decision Making |
Add a Comment |
| Jun 25, 2009 |
When Everything Changes |
Add a Comment |
| Jun 18, 2009 |
When You Want More Conversation |
Add a Comment |
| Jun 11, 2009 |
If only you were different, he would change |
4 Comments |
| Jun 03, 2009 |
Empathy Hostage |
Add a Comment |
| May 27, 2009 |
Success with Reactivity |
1 Comment |
| May 21, 2009 |
The Relationship Score Card |
2 Comments |
| May 10, 2009 |
Keeping Boundaries |
Add a Comment |
| May 07, 2009 |
Compassion for Yourself |
Add a Comment |
| Apr 16, 2009 |
Between Needs and Strategies |
Add a Comment |
| Apr 08, 2009 |
A Competition in Suffering |
2 Comments |
| Apr 02, 2009 |
Pausing for Self-Reflection |
3 Comments |
| Mar 11, 2009 |
Slippery Conversations |
1 Comment |
| Mar 06, 2009 |
Anger – A Help and A Hindrance |
Add a Comment |
| Feb 26, 2009 |
Anxious about Anxiety |
1 Comment |
| Feb 05, 2009 |
Saying No Means Saying Yes |
1 Comment |
| Jan 28, 2009 |
Invalidating Other’s Feelings |
Add a Comment |
| Jan 22, 2009 |
A Volume Knob for Needs |
Add a Comment |
| Jan 15, 2009 |
A Little Listening Disconnect |
1 Comment |
| Jan 08, 2009 |
Manipulation |
3 Comments |
| Jan 01, 2009 |
Pitfalls of Praise |
Add a Comment |
| Dec 26, 2008 |
Family & Holidays |
1 Comment |
| Dec 18, 2008 |
Looking for Depth in Your Relationship |
Add a Comment |
| Dec 03, 2008 |
Stuck in the Past (part 2) |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 28, 2008 |
Stuck in the Past (part 1) |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 20, 2008 |
Making Reactivity Easier |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 12, 2008 |
Why not ask “why”? |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 05, 2008 |
Safely Criticizing |
Add a Comment |
| Oct 30, 2008 |
The Confusing Question: "How are you?" |
1 Comment |
| Oct 22, 2008 |
Tired of Defending Against Jackal Ears |
Add a Comment |
| Oct 16, 2008 |
Deadening Monologues |
Add a Comment |
| Oct 02, 2008 |
Disagree and Celebrate Anyway |
Add a Comment |
| Sep 25, 2008 |
Chasing Happiness |
Add a Comment |
| Sep 18, 2008 |
Anchoring Conflict in Specifics |
Add a Comment |
| Aug 22, 2008 |
Who’s Abandoning Who? |
Add a Comment |
| Aug 17, 2008 |
"Feeling Trapped" |
Add a Comment |
| Jul 31, 2008 |
Get Curious about Broken Agreements |
Add a Comment |
| Jul 19, 2008 |
Akido with Demands |
Add a Comment |
| Jul 12, 2008 |
Saying Thank You |
Add a Comment |
| Jul 01, 2008 |
“Falling Out of Love” |
Add a Comment |
| Jun 22, 2008 |
Connection with Your Noisy Neighbor |
4 Comments |
| May 28, 2008 |
Sex (part 2): Talking about Sex |
Add a Comment |
| May 12, 2008 |
Sex (part 1): Is it a Need or a Strategy? |
Add a Comment |
| May 06, 2008 |
Control: A Universal Strategy |
Add a Comment |
| Apr 29, 2008 |
Giraffe & Jackal Gestures |
Add a Comment |
| Apr 25, 2008 |
What are you telling yourself? |
Add a Comment |
| Apr 15, 2008 |
Your Stuck Friend (Part 2) |
Add a Comment |
| Apr 08, 2008 |
Your Stuck Friend (Part 1) |
Add a Comment |
| Mar 26, 2008 |
One Need |
Add a Comment |
| Mar 18, 2008 |
Sharing Unmet Needs from Abundance |
Add a Comment |
| Mar 02, 2008 |
Star Trek Empathy |
Add a Comment |
| Feb 26, 2008 |
Helpful Time-outs |
Add a Comment |
| Feb 19, 2008 |
“But it didn’t happen that way!” |
Add a Comment |
| Feb 05, 2008 |
Responding to ”Lawyering” |
Add a Comment |
| Jan 30, 2008 |
Lawyering for Your Needs |
Add a Comment |
| Jan 15, 2008 |
Verbal “Attacks” from Strangers |
Add a Comment |
| Jan 08, 2008 |
Stuck Anger at Family Members |
Add a Comment |
| Dec 31, 2007 |
Catch and Release Program for Jackals |
Add a Comment |
| Dec 11, 2007 |
Jackals that Bounce, Jackals that Stick |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 27, 2007 |
Empathy When Things are Fine |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 20, 2007 |
Your Ranting Boss |
1 Comment |
| Nov 13, 2007 |
The Trap of Forgiveness |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 06, 2007 |
Meeting Prejudice |
Add a Comment |
| Oct 16, 2007 |
Dead Job Interviews |
Add a Comment |
| Oct 09, 2007 |
Pulling Others Out of Suffering |
Add a Comment |
| Sep 25, 2007 |
Receiving Compliments |
Add a Comment |
| Sep 18, 2007 |
Hurting Others on Purpose |
Add a Comment |
| Sep 11, 2007 |
Spiritual Ideals and Shaming Jackals |
Add a Comment |
| Jul 03, 2007 |
Street Giraffe |
5 Comments |
| May 29, 2007 |
Relief from Anxiety |
Add a Comment |
| May 15, 2007 |
Compassion vs. Saving |
Add a Comment |
| May 01, 2007 |
Less is More |
Add a Comment |
| Mar 07, 2007 |
Curing the "I'm so busy" Disease |
1 Comment |
| Feb 20, 2007 |
Jackal Language & Reactivity |
Add a Comment |
| Jan 30, 2007 |
Praise |
Add a Comment |
| Nov 07, 2006 |
Giving from the Heart |
Add a Comment |
View Cart
